Being Bullied!
Being bullied throughout my high school life both verbal and physical has made a massive impact on my education and social life. Not feeling like I could talk to anyone or explain why I wasn’t attending school made things worse for my family especially for my mother.
Sam Goldstein Ph.D. believes there are three different types of groups of how people bully each other one by name calling, threatening, isolating others, spreading rumours, text messaging and emailing hurtful ideas. Generally, bullying involves a bully and a victim, there is research focused on children falling into one of these two mutually exclusive groups.
Nine times out of ten, people who are the victim can turn into bullies themselves. This however, is not the case for me as it really turned my life upside down going further into depression and barely leaving my bedroom and having no friends to turn to, there was no one I could really trust as I didn’t want to burden my family too much as their health was not good at the time. Being bullied in high school meant I missed out on major events such as my graduation and the end of the school year prom at my high school as well as missing out on my GCSEs.
People bully other people to make themselves feel better; some are just serial bullies where they have to have someone as a target and will always move onto the next target as they can’t live without not having one. These serial bullies are convincing, practiced liars to meet their own little needs in one specific moment in time. They also have a Jekyll and Hyde nature where they act all innocent and charming in front of witnesses where no one will want to believe that that particular person has a vindictive nature where they try to deceive people they believe will trust their side of things. Being shallow and putting on the charm to convince people around them that they are the perfect human beings with exceptional verbal interaction when necessary. They try to be smooth, slippery, slimy, ingratiating, fawning, toadying, obsequious and sycophantic in their bullying. They can hold very deep prejudices.
People bully other people to avoid facing up to their own inadequacy to be able to do something about it. They defiantly don’t like accepting their own responsibility for anything and will probably blame someone else. The main reason for them to bully people is to reduce their own fear of being caught for what they really are positivity weak and inadequate and divert others from seeing them like that so they turn to bullying people they see as less fortunate than themselves.
Being bullied myself has regrettably taken things away from me, but it will never take away the people I love and what I love to do and I will achieve my chosen career although the memory of being bullied will always be there in the back of my head, however, I won’t let it interfere with my future and my family. I think peoples advice and talking to someone about being bullied is great but it doesn’t always mean people can, especially if they have no one around them, for example no friends they can trust or just no friends like in my own experience. Now I have a few friends, which is an improvement, and hope to gain more in the near future.
If people do bully me again in the future I will be a little stronger than what I was in high school and won’t let them get away with it second time round and will tell someone although we must be aware that not everyone has the strength to tell someone what is really going on.
